{"id":7243,"date":"2020-12-21T13:25:14","date_gmt":"2020-12-21T18:25:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/nurturingmindscounseling.com\/newstaging\/?p=7243"},"modified":"2023-08-01T19:40:00","modified_gmt":"2023-08-02T00:40:00","slug":"12-days-of-tips-for-the-holidays-day-9","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/nurturingmindscounseling.com\/newstaging\/12-days-of-tips-for-the-holidays-day-9\/","title":{"rendered":"12 Days of Tips for the Holidays: Day 9"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Day 9 of the 12 tips of the holiday series to help manage the holiday stress. Today I&#8217;m talking about letting go of those pesky comparisons. Watch the video below!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Hi everyone! My name is Diana Garcia and I\u2019m a licensed mental health counselor in Florida and founder of a private practice called Nurturing Minds Counseling.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I&#8217;ve been doing 12 days of holiday tips. Today we are on tip number nine, but I encourage you to check out videos and blogs 1-8. We&#8217;re going to be talking about comparison, and today\u2019s tip is to stop and drop the comparison!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-table-of-contents-block-table-of-contents-block\"><div class=\"eb-parent-wrapper eb-parent-eb-toc-rke00tc \"><div class=\"eb-toc-rke00tc eb-toc-container eb-toc-not-collapsible eb-toc-initially-not-collapsed eb-toc-is-not-sticky eb-toc-not-scrollToTop    \" data-scroll-top=\"false\" data-collapsible=\"false\" data-hide-mobile=\"false\" data-sticky=\"false\" data-scroll-target=\"scroll_to_toc\"><div class=\"eb-toc-header\"><div class=\"eb-toc-title\">Table of Contents<\/div><\/div><div class=\"eb-toc-wrapper   \" data-headers=\"[{&quot;level&quot;:2,&quot;content&quot;:&quot;Watch Video: \\&quot;12 Days of Tips for the Holidays: Day 9: Drop the Comparisons\\&quot;&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Watch Video: \\&quot;12 Days of Tips for the Holidays: Day 9: Drop the Comparisons\\&quot;&quot;,&quot;link&quot;:&quot;watch-video-12-days-of-tips-for-the-holidays-day-9-drop-the-comparisons&quot;},{&quot;level&quot;:2,&quot;content&quot;:&quot;Read Blog: \\&quot;12 Days of Tips for the Holidays: Day 9\\&quot;&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Read Blog: \\&quot;12 Days of Tips for the Holidays: Day 9\\&quot;&quot;,&quot;link&quot;:&quot;read-blog-12-days-of-tips-for-the-holidays-day-9&quot;}]\" data-visible=\"[true,true,true,true,true,true]\" data-smooth=\"true\" data-top-offset=\"\"><div class=\"eb-toc__list-wrap\"><ul class=\"eb-toc__list\"><li style=\"padding-bottom:10px\"><a href=\"#watch-video-12-days-of-tips-for-the-holidays-day-9-drop-the-comparisons\">Watch Video: &#8220;12 Days of Tips for the Holidays: Day 9: Drop the Comparisons&#8221;<\/a><\/li><li style=\"padding-top:10px;padding-bottom:10px\"><a href=\"#read-blog-12-days-of-tips-for-the-holidays-day-9\">Read Blog: &#8220;12 Days of Tips for the Holidays: Day 9&#8221;<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Watch Video: &#8220;12 Days of Tips for the Holidays: Day 9: Drop the Comparisons&#8221;<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"12 Days of Tips for the Holidays: Day 9: Drop the Comparisons\" width=\"720\" height=\"405\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/9tv-vb3pDCU?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Read Blog: &#8220;12 Days of Tips for the Holidays: Day 9&#8221;<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I know that seems easier said than done, but first I want you to recognize when comparison is coming up. I think that especially during the holiday season, it&#8217;s easy to get in that comparison mode. I think this is exacerbated even more so now because we can go on social media and see how everyone else is doing for the holidays. The posts on all the cutesy things that they&#8217;re doing, and maybe you&#8217;re feeling like \u2018Oh gosh, I should be doing some of these things.\u2019 Notice when comparisons are showing up. You could be comparing within your family or within your group of friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Brene Brown has a quote that she puts in her book by Theodore Roosevelt that states that \u201ccomparison is the thief of joy.\u201d\u00a0 She expands on that by explaining that when we compare, we remove our joy from a situation because we get stuck in the comparison and not feeling good enough, or not measuring up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Having this picture of what you should or shouldn&#8217;t be and how you&#8217;re not adding up is a problem, so acknowledge that and especially when comparison shows up in areas of our life where we really pride ourselves in. Maybe it\u2019s important for me to be a good partner, so that&#8217;s something I\u2019m more likely to compare to others because I feel like I can see instances where I&#8217;ve been worse or better than other people.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Noticing when you\u2019re comparing, or sometimes even comparing yourself to your past self, especially after 2020 because that was its own animal. Don&#8217;t compare who you are now to who you were last or year the year before. What you were doing then was a unique situation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Today&#8217;s tip is to really stop the comparison trap or, at least, just notice when it&#8217;s showing up in your life. 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