{"id":7257,"date":"2020-12-24T11:58:26","date_gmt":"2020-12-24T16:58:26","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/nurturingmindscounseling.com\/newstaging\/?p=7257"},"modified":"2023-08-01T20:29:47","modified_gmt":"2023-08-02T01:29:47","slug":"12-days-of-tips-for-the-holidays-day-12","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/nurturingmindscounseling.com\/newstaging\/12-days-of-tips-for-the-holidays-day-12\/","title":{"rendered":"12 Days of Tips for the Holidays: Day 12"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Hi everyone! My name is Diana Garcia and I\u2019m a licensed mental health counselor in Florida and founder of a private practice called Nurturing Minds Counseling.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">We&#8217;ve been doing 12 tips for the holiday season, and we&#8217;ve gone through tips 1-11. Today we are on tip number 12. We started off with a three-minute breathing activity, so I wanted to end with a <a href=\"https:\/\/nurturingmindscounseling.com\/newstaging\/3-components-of-self-compassion-2\/\" target=\"_blank\" data-type=\"URL\" data-id=\"https:\/\/nurturingmindscounseling.com\/newstaging\/3-components-of-self-compassion-2\/\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">self-compassion<\/a> break.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-table-of-contents-block-table-of-contents-block\"><div class=\"eb-parent-wrapper eb-parent-eb-toc-0wxwmkn \"><div class=\"eb-toc-0wxwmkn eb-toc-container eb-toc-not-collapsible eb-toc-initially-not-collapsed eb-toc-is-not-sticky eb-toc-not-scrollToTop    \" data-scroll-top=\"false\" data-collapsible=\"false\" data-hide-mobile=\"false\" data-sticky=\"false\" data-scroll-target=\"scroll_to_toc\"><div class=\"eb-toc-header\"><div class=\"eb-toc-title\">Table of Contents<\/div><\/div><div class=\"eb-toc-wrapper   \" data-headers=\"[{&quot;level&quot;:2,&quot;content&quot;:&quot;Watch Video: \\&quot;12 Days of Tips for the Holidays: Day 12: Self-Compassion Break\\&quot;&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Watch Video: \\&quot;12 Days of Tips for the Holidays: Day 12: Self-Compassion Break\\&quot;&quot;,&quot;link&quot;:&quot;watch-video-12-days-of-tips-for-the-holidays-day-12-self-compassion-break&quot;},{&quot;level&quot;:2,&quot;content&quot;:&quot;Read Blog: \\&quot;12 Days of Tips for the Holidays: Day 12\\&quot;&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Read Blog: \\&quot;12 Days of Tips for the Holidays: Day 12\\&quot;&quot;,&quot;link&quot;:&quot;read-blog-12-days-of-tips-for-the-holidays-day-12&quot;}]\" data-visible=\"[true,true,true,true,true,true]\" data-smooth=\"true\" data-top-offset=\"\"><div class=\"eb-toc__list-wrap\"><ul class=\"eb-toc__list\"><li style=\"padding-bottom:10px\"><a href=\"#watch-video-12-days-of-tips-for-the-holidays-day-12-self-compassion-break\">Watch Video: &#8220;12 Days of Tips for the Holidays: Day 12: Self-Compassion Break&#8221;<\/a><\/li><li style=\"padding-top:10px;padding-bottom:10px\"><a href=\"#read-blog-12-days-of-tips-for-the-holidays-day-12\">Read Blog: &#8220;12 Days of Tips for the Holidays: Day 12&#8221;<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Watch Video: &#8220;12 Days of Tips for the Holidays: Day 12: Self-Compassion Break&#8221;<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"12 Days of Tips for the Holidays: Day 12: Self-Compassion Break\" width=\"720\" height=\"405\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/A_zMm-9UnzA?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Read Blog: &#8220;12 Days of Tips for the Holidays: Day 12&#8221;<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">If you&#8217;re not familiar with self-compassion, there are three components: mindfulness, common humanity, and being kind to yourself. Self-talk is how you talk to yourself. There&#8217;s a blog that I have on my website that talks a little bit more about that, but the self-compassion break is calling on all three elements when you&#8217;re having a moment of difficulty.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">To get a sense of how to do this activity, or how to use this break, recall a situation that feels stressful and has maybe been painful. Don\u2019t think too much of something, but maybe something that you notice tends to kind of stress you out. It doesn&#8217;t matter how big or small, but something that you can incorporate in your day-to-day. This is regardless of what may have triggered it, especially if you don&#8217;t know what triggered this moment of suffering or stress.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Right now, I would like you to think about a situation. Think about how that situation feels. Which feeling comes up for you, what sensations come up in your body, what thoughts come up for you? The first part to a self-compassion break is acknowledging the situation and saying this is a moment of suffering. That kind of mindfulness piece is knowing that this is a moment where I\u2019m suffering. If that feels too weird, or it doesn&#8217;t resonate with you, you can just say \u2018gosh this hurts\u2019 or \u2018ouch this is stressful.\u2019 Do whatever feels right to you. Acknowledge and be mindful that this is a stressful moment.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The second part is incorporating common humanity. You would say to yourself \u2018suffering is a part of life.\u2019 Again, if that doesn&#8217;t feel like it resonates with you, you can just say something like \u2018Everyone suffers and I&#8217;m not alone. Other people have felt this way or feel this way.\u2019 It&#8217;s about recalling this element that you&#8217;re not alone in your suffering, and it&#8217;s not about comparison. You&#8217;re reminding yourself that to be human means to suffer so everyone suffers and repeating that to yourself is self-kindness. To hit this point home, if this feels comfortable, you can put your hands over your heart and you can say something along the lines of \u2018may I be kind to myself,\u2019 or \u2018may I accept myself as I am,\u2019 or \u2018may I forgive myself.\u2019 If you can&#8217;t really think of something that you would say to yourself, think of how you would say something to your friend and give yourself that advice<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I now want you to move past whatever stressful situation you were thinking about. To recap you would go through this process in your mind, say it out loud, or say it in your head. You don&#8217;t have to put your hand over your heart if that doesn&#8217;t feel comfortable, but it&#8217;s a moment to be kind to yourself and to incorporate all these elements of self-compassion. This is especially the case when we&#8217;re struggling in our day-to-day because sometimes, we can be harsh on ourselves, invalidate ourselves, or not even be aware of what&#8217;s happening.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This is the final tip for the holiday season, and I really encourage you to do some self-compassion breaks whenever you need them. I hope that one or all these tips have been helpful for you. Again, it doesn&#8217;t matter what you do or do not celebrate, these tips are applicable and you can use any of them. If you guys have any comments or feedback, feel free to reach out to me. Thank you and I hope you have a great holiday season and a great end to 2020!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Hi everyone! 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